And your VISA is rejected !

Heard of many fears while growing up
but never thought I’ll have to be afraid of myself
Who I am
What I think
What I wanna be

Who I wanna be with

Because I know they won’t like me this way

And somewhere THEIR acceptance and approval is so important to us

THEIR acceptance is my visa for a happy life
and my soul is the passport where they keep imprinting my mistakes

Because if they won’t accept me…………
What if they won’t accept you?
You could do all that they please being paranoid by the fact that “what if they don’t like me!”,
but ever wondered
WHY?
We are here for a very little time and tomorrow isn’t promised
We’ll soon be gone
and you can’t take these mistakes, embarrassments, with you
so let us fight our fear

this fear of not being accepted

And if you think you will look stupid and they would laugh
be happy about being somebody’s reason to laugh (life is about perspective)

Maybe you could laugh at yourself too

Mistakes that we make aren’t just lessons
They are the jokes (tragic ones though) still JOKES

You could either laugh on them with everyone else

OR

Just crib over every other thing

You could cry and do every other thing they want and expect you to do and
make your life miserable

OR

Just do what you want to do and don’t give a damn about “their” opinions

Because the importance of their opinions in your life is just as much as the importance of the GOOD MORNING forwards on family WhatsApp groups to you!!

So live free and let others think whatever they wish to

-Reject this visa
and make a new passport

Strong as a Stone!

 

How much do we hurt ourselves by hiding our pain
to show how strong we are!
because we know that people often confuse Numb with Strong
they define strong as: one who can bear the pain
one who does not feel the pain

How many times have we laughed at our own scars
and told misleading stories of how we never felt anything
instead of telling them the pain behind those stories and the strength we had to still go on with them

-Aren’t stones the strongest?

 

 

Relationship = Happy+Sad

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Book: Him Writer: Pierre Alex Jeanty

Dear man,
I know it is tough really really tough to live with these burdens they have put on you and tried to fill your ears about me but I want you to know I am not at all like what they tell you I am and I don’t want you to be anything like they want you to be, because I want you to be you and this does not get us to a fairy tale ending where there will be all love and no fights, there will be love and fights but above all there will be trust and understanding and we won’t need to go to an island and live in a forest to experience this kind of love, because we will stay where we are now and in amidst of these concrete jungles we will build our own garden of love which will have flowers of friendships and thorns of reality, green grass of happiness and dried bush of sorrow, it will have people entering the garden who will make your life easier but there will also be people who will just try to litter.
But above all this me and you will together take care of it playing on our strengths and working on our weaknesses.
It will never be easy because there will be rains and winds that will make our times tough but there will always be the sunshine that will make it all right.

-A match made in heaven reality

Bad Liar/Reputation?​

She is real rude
She is humorous humiliating
She is unique fake
She is loved spoilt
She is a self loving self- centered person
She smokes, drinks and parties like you and others is a slut and a brat
She is hard working lucky
She does not justify when we confront her, because she knows you won’t trust her she is guilty

Is everything that glitters is gold ? .
Not everyone with a bad reputation is actually bad.
So you still think she is really nasty, aloof, antagonistic, callous, rude ? .

-People with bad reputations have the best stories to tell

Ignore all hatred and criticism
Live for what you create
and Die protecting it
-Lady Gaga

Men

Dear society,

A man is “a male human being ”
so what makes you feel that a man is the one who is strong, does not feel pain, needs to be macho, who leads, a person who fights for women, opens the door, slides a chair, earns more, needs to be aggressive, does not wear pink, cannot be vulnerable, empathetic, sensitive, does not shed tears……

and if any man begs to differ from your definition you call him pansy or effeminate
A man is someone who can be anyone and anything he wants to be.
At times when things go wrong it is already very tough for them (men)
don’t make it tougher by depriving them from their right to shed tears or express what they feel
and
toughest to fight the guilt of shedding tears later, only because you failed to understand their pain.

the only person who does not feel the pain is the dead
so the next time you say i don’t feel any pain because i am a man you better check if you are alive in the first place.

Breathing

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How many times have you tried to tell someone something they asked you to talk about and when you did, all you got is secret ignorance or emptiness around you?
and when you get angry they asked you to take deep breaths

BUT

How could we not know that breathing could mean more than the process of taking air into and expelling it from the lungs.

It could mean how gracefully you inhale or take in poeples’ opinions and how well do you exhale or let out your reactions to it.
It is when someone comes to you and tells you something you don’t wanna hear or talk about but you still listen and show utmost compassion towards them and then exhale a graceful and compassionate answer
something more welcoming because at the end its you who invited them.

Who are you?

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Three girls by Amrita Sher-Gill

I was always told to check in the dictionary for meaning of words I never understood and therefore I did when I wanted to check what exactly a woman means;

“an adult human female” so why do people always keep saying that a woman is a person who makes sacrifices, who is simple, who is decent, who has no right to speak up or object, who is gullible, who needs to be protected, who is as resilient as water, who is not supposed to take decisions……….
to which I wonder is my dictionary wrong or am I on the wrong page?

To everyone who categorised us.

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You classified and segregated us in types like:

1 the obedient ones:
who no matter what, would never raise her voice against you, the gullible ones

2 the pampered ones:
the ones who expect the same kind of love from her in-laws like her parents

3 the spoilt ones:
the ones who love the self love stories, who love their mind, body, opinion before anyone else’s

4 the slutty ones
the ones who think they have the same freedom as boys do, the ones who are not stopped by night for anything they wanna do

5 the kind ones:
the ones who you can easily be convinced or forced to sacrifice anything even if it is their dream

6 the bizarre ones:
the ones who think age is just a number and who think aging is a concept just for the body not their heart or mind (I LOVE THEM THE MOST – THE TIMELESS BEAUTIES)

7 the pretty ones:
the fair, thin, classy, wears pink and does not apply make up, does not wear glasses ones

8 the intelligent ones:
the ones who can handle all the house work and still perform well in academics and excel at their hobbies too (WHO CARES)

9 the beauty with brains:
they’ re TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE

10 fake ones:
the ones who apply a lot of make up, the ones who think getting ready without occasions and being over dressed is just okay and a matter of their choice
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but little did you know we weren’t old house scrap to be kept in boxes and wrapped .We were all books, while some had musical love stories in them, other had hardcore murder mysteries and you will never know when the OBEDIENT ONES would be done with the silent planning and start executing everything they planned these years, the PAMPERED ONES would accept the difference between parents and in-laws which you showed her and now she does not crave pampering from others, the SPOILT ONES would fall in love again with their own self and this time it will be stronger and forever, SLUTTY ONES would list down all weakness of these patriarchs while she hangouts with them, KIND ONES would again sacrifice but this time it will be with their consent and for them for the first time, BIZARRE ONES would use all their experience they got while aging, the PRETTY ONES whom you made to wear pink in order to be a girl would change their colour to red just like blood, INTELLIGENT ONES would collect all the tools like protractors and knives which she used while excelling at studies and housework and find another hobby this time which they won’t give up for you, BEAUTY WITH BRAIN ONES will show you they come for real and the FAKE ONES would start applying make up but this time not for a class or party but your funeral and then finally they come together to return you all the hatred coated in love which you gave her when she didn’t say a word.

 

–  Even in my most silent days I am a disaster about to occur

Hello Beautiful!

If anyone asked me what is beauty before I’d definitely say
fair skin
lean body
straight brown hair
fluency in speaking
But
Little did i know that beauty was not defined by majority but by the eyes of the beholder
Little did i know that your sculpted nose is a mark of pride and confidence you hold in yourself
Little did I know that the colour of your skin shows your compassion and a promise to hold my secrets and absorb all negativity
Little did I know that your silky but wavy hair depict the strength you have to hold the worlds together
Little did I know that your eyes trickle wisdom
Little did I know that your lips keep repeating the promise of making this world a better place

-Dear Girlfriend

– Every woman is an epitome of Beauty

Should I fit in?

Dear you,
There will be times when people will make you believe that fitting in is the only option, but you gotta remind yourself that it is NOT, it never was, fitting in is like a chewing gum which tastes sweet in the start and bland after a while. It will make you uncomfortable and at times pull you in the dark well of self doubt.
Always remember that Rudolf was different and the other reindeers used to laugh and call him names but he never tried to fit in or be like them just to fit in AND-
“Then one foggy Christmas Eve,
Santa came to say,
Rudolph with your nose so bright,
Won’t you guide my sleigh tonight”
People might not accept who you are, but how does that even matter? The importance of people’s opinions in your life should be just as SALT in COFFEE.

From,
ELSA

Let it go, let it go
Can’t hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go
Turn away and slam the door
I don’t care what they’re going to say
Let the storm rage on
The cold never bothered me anyway