Men

Dear society,

A man is “a male human being ”
so what makes you feel that a man is the one who is strong, does not feel pain, needs to be macho, who leads, a person who fights for women, opens the door, slides a chair, earns more, needs to be aggressive, does not wear pink, cannot be vulnerable, empathetic, sensitive, does not shed tears……

and if any man begs to differ from your definition you call him pansy or effeminate
A man is someone who can be anyone and anything he wants to be.
At times when things go wrong it is already very tough for them (men)
don’t make it tougher by depriving them from their right to shed tears or express what they feel
and
toughest to fight the guilt of shedding tears later, only because you failed to understand their pain.

the only person who does not feel the pain is the dead
so the next time you say i don’t feel any pain because i am a man you better check if you are alive in the first place.

Breathing

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How many times have you tried to tell someone something they asked you to talk about and when you did, all you got is secret ignorance or emptiness around you?
and when you get angry they asked you to take deep breaths

BUT

How could we not know that breathing could mean more than the process of taking air into and expelling it from the lungs.

It could mean how gracefully you inhale or take in poeples’ opinions and how well do you exhale or let out your reactions to it.
It is when someone comes to you and tells you something you don’t wanna hear or talk about but you still listen and show utmost compassion towards them and then exhale a graceful and compassionate answer
something more welcoming because at the end its you who invited them.

MEN∝WOMEN

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Dear men who find it girly and women who find it attention seeking,

A feminist is “a person who believes in the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes (Yes it’s FEMINISM), and tries to achieve equal opportunities and treatment for women”. It is not something that is referred only for women or something only women can become, it is an epicene or unisex concept just like your H&M hoodies, it will suit you too, at least try it once before you judge it for being too girly. It is something we need to work together for.
It is not for him or her it is for us.
This will help us achieve better definitions and something more than girly or manly,

When we will be classified only in two parts humane or inhumane,
Where there will be no pressure to act in a particular manner to be a part of gender race,
Where women and strength, and men and emotions won’t be ironical,

Where my hard work would determine my pay and not my gender,
Where my dominating nature would be determined by my genes and not my gender,
Where my body won’t signify softness, cowardice and naive,
Where women will have equal rights and opportunities as men
Where men will get equal credit and empathy as women,

Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.

 

 

Who are you?

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Three girls by Amrita Sher-Gill

I was always told to check in the dictionary for meaning of words I never understood and therefore I did when I wanted to check what exactly a woman means;

“an adult human female” so why do people always keep saying that a woman is a person who makes sacrifices, who is simple, who is decent, who has no right to speak up or object, who is gullible, who needs to be protected, who is as resilient as water, who is not supposed to take decisions……….
to which I wonder is my dictionary wrong or am I on the wrong page?