Rest or Work?

Some days I just wanna stay in a place and watch my life as it goes by like still-water observes the beauty around, just the same way
I want to appreciate the little things I miss in the daily haste

And while I stay there and discover how so many people do little things for me and I forget to thank them; and
I want to feel gratuitous

I wanna stop for a while and not do anything and see how far I have reached from where I started; and
I want to feel proud

I wanna stop thinking about tomorrow;
about my problems;
about my future;
I just want to think about the things I already have; and
I want to feel lucky

I don’t want to think about the time I have wasted till now; or
the places I have to reach; or
things I need to know; or
questions I need to answer; or
problems I need to solve
And it’s not necessary that I need to feel accomplished like I have reached my destination
because at times the view before reaching the destination is better than the destination itself
I just want to enjoy that

Because resting is important, doing nothing is important too
Like an electronic device charges faster when kept undisturbed while charging
I wanna fill/charge myself with all these beautiful energies.

Do you feel the same?
What’s stopping you then?
Remember you can only watch the reflection of the sunset in still-water
So at times being still and doing nothing is not bad/wrong

And then after resting
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I want to start again

-“Rest If you must but don’t you quit”

John Greenleaf Whittier

Mother

To the person whom world muses as an institution of perfection,
Isn’t it tiring to be expected to be correct all the time?
To know everything?

Don’t we forget that she is a human before being a mother?
It’s her first time being a mother too and even if it’s not she can’t be blamed for being imperfect!

A mistake without a bad intention is forgiven everywhere
In every shrine
But for mothers?
It is often wrapped in questions instead
“How could you not know?”
“What kind of a mother are you?”

She is still trying to find the answer to these questions the world imposes on her,
What kind of mother are you?
And sometimes she has the answer (the one which the world hasn’t heard of!)
‘A Human Mother, the one who makes mistakes and learns from them’
A Mother who maybe once or many times didn’t understand what was wrong with the child; or
What the child meant to say; or
What was happening to him…..

And who gave us the right to decide if she failed or passed at being a mother?
Who decides that and on what merits?

Ever thought how burdened does she feel when we assume she knows it all
How paranoid she is due to the expectations of the world
She has looked at her mother and all the other mothers,
but found the same helplessness in their eyes
who have accepted these assumptions as a gospel
So now she stops waiting for someone to break this chain of expectations,
And she does what they did
She accepts the rule too
That A MOTHER MUST KNOW IT ALL
She has nowhere to go for help
So now she tells herself she knows it all and thinks it’s her duty to know it all

 

 

 

 

I am me

Who are you?
I am Me

And what’s so special about it?
Everything! Because unlike everyone I don’t try to be someone I am not,
Unlike everyone I am not scared of being myself, even if that means being extremely ordinary, boring, simple,  ……….
Unlike everyone I don’t say stuff I don’t mean.
I don’t do things which I do not find agreeable
I am not perfect, I am work-in-progress
I need to learn more, but will there ever be an end to the thirst?
God forbid if that thirst dies what will we live for?
Thus, even in days when I think I am lagging behind, I remind myself
That I have all the time in the world
I don’t mind working slowly and taking breaks
Sleeping before the finishing line wouldn’t make a lot of difference either
It’s no Race
Even if it is, the finishing line is invisible

There are days I work hard to accomplish goals
There are days I spend doing nothing progressive
There are days I feel I am lagging but I don’t let this take over me
There are days the metaphorical speeches scare me
because I don’t fit in the list
I am neither a wave nor an ocean
I am neither a lion nor a fox

But who said I had to be like them?
Those metaphorical creatures or other accomplished men of this world
I said it before, I am me
And that’s good enough for me to be motivated again

There are days I fail at doing anything that I just talked above
but that doesn’t stop me from picking right from where I stopped the last time
Because I am everything someone else wants to be
Because I am different because different is me

So if you’re you, be delighted for it, because that’s rare
Not all stones can get hit by waves and still keep their shape in the river!

-Get influenced inspired

Measuring love on the scale of Hatred

It is alright to have beliefs different from that of others, it is normal to like or love certain things but haven’t we chosen the path of hatred to show our love?
Haven’t we chosen the path of offending and disrespecting other people’s choices to show our love to what we love?

Women trying to show their support for the feminist movement and making the trolling of men a part of the movement
Millennials mocking the old school approach to supporting their trends
People supporting one religion by offending other religions to show their loyalty towards theirs
People becoming chauvinist for showing patriotism

and a lot more

YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO LOVE ANYTHING
AND IT NEED NOT COME WITH  HATRED FOR OTHER THINGS

Loving something does not put you on a war with all the other things in the world
You could love yourself without hating others
This isn’t a war against anyone
this is about preferences and choices, you could enjoy your freedom without stopping others enjoying theirs

you could support women and feminism without making it against the men
where you could choose white without belittling the tan and dark skin
where you could love the contemporaries without hating the classics
where you could love trendy clothes without mocking people who are comfortable with their not so trendy clothes
you can live in peace without disturbing other’s peace
where you could support one person’s ideologies without criticising the rest
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where you could love yourself without hating others

Also,  not everyone is like that!

some people like what they like and do not hate other things
There are women supporting feminism and they don’t hate all men
There are people who prefer classics but do not detest the contemporaries
There are people who like football and do not hate cricket
and this is as simple as that

Don’t complicate it

and unless somebody tells you about their hatred do not assume they hate all the other things

 

-I love tea and coffee!
I love Captain America and Iron man!
I LOVE YOU and MYSELF!

Love or Magic?

“Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s an art. And like any art, it takes not only inspiration but also a lot of work”
-Paulo Coelho 

Nobody said that loving was easy, but do we have a choice?
At times we can’t stop ourselves from falling for people, and once we have fallen for them, the ride isn’t easy, love just happens but to keep it alive it requires work and efforts from both sides, it requires trust, compassion, understanding from both sides.
Don’t let your pride become conceit, just the way there exists a need for you to protect self-love from toxic relationships, there is also a need to protect your love from vanity. There is always a line and anything beyond it is detrimental!
Love is no different, even when it is for oneself!

But what happens when even when you are trying really hard and still things go wrong sometimes, once in a while?
Try reminding yourself of all the good that other person has done for you and don’t let the ephemeral anger destroy things forever!
Don’t say things you don’t mean and would regret later!

“In Love, nothing is destroyed forever”
-Paulo Coelho

Relationships are like a tapestry made with threads of love and care, they tangle but get untangled too!

No matter how much you fight you will always end up forgiving the one you love because you know what they mean to you and how dreadful your life will be without them.
You fight, you make it up and repeat; it’s a never-ending cycle.
But don’t let anyone use this as a tool to exploit you!
Because as I said there is always a line; a line!
Don’t let this make you believe that toxic relationships are normal
Don’t let this make you drag the wagon of relationship alone.
Don’t let the love songs deceive you in mistaking masochism for love

“Those who cannot accept this, and who always try to find an explanation for magical and mysterious human relationships, will miss the best part of life”
-Paulo Coelho

Isn’t it weird how once a person who you have known just for months becomes dearer than the ones you have known all your life?
Isn’t it weird that at times the difference between relationships based on blood and the others have no variance?
Isn’t it weird how a person finds a family in the acquaintances one calls “friends”?
Isn’t it weird how even a new city full of strangers does not seem strange anymore because of some strangers?
Isn’t it weird how loving could make you so beautiful with the glow it adds to your face and behaviour?
Isn’t it weird how loving someone could make you trust yourself even more?
Isn’t it weird how loving someone could make you a better person?
Isn’t it weird how loving someone can change your relations with many in a good way?
Isn’t it weird how loving someone can make you accept your mistakes more against the one you love?

It is not weird, it’s love!
And love is what it is; unconditional
if it wasn’t like that
A child wouldn’t show such reverence for someone he calls parents
A man wouldn’t go to the ends for someone he calls his wife
A woman wouldn’t consider leaving everything for someone she calls her husband
A person wouldn’t fight the world for someone he calls a friend

Isn’t love a realisation of the good things in life?

 

 

-Love is in the air
And just like air it has oxygen and pollution!

 

 

 

Circle of love

I remember the time my Nani used to tie my hair while getting me ready for school and I used to tell her stories of my class
and today as I comb her hair because her feeble hands cant anymore and now she tells me her stories

 

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Poem by: Rupi Kaur

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Beginning of a new End

We are mortals, we die, so do our stories
and the ones we loved. It is inevitable, but we still fall for the lie of forever or at least we make ourselves believe- ‘Yes, That day will come one day But it ain’t today!’
Are we really sure?

“Everything that has begun must end!”

It is easy to say that the end gets new beginnings.
But before that beginning you are supposed to witness a hollow space in the heart left by the end of something and to conquer that, that is what is the toughest task.
As these things are the kind which you never get enough of and you never wanna let them go?
So it is a crazy feeling, where you wanna yell, keep thinking about those things but at the same time not talk about it at all because words aren’t enough and you also don’t wanna let the feeling slip out of your hand, so you try to capture it in camera or somewhere but you don’t wanna miss it in reality either.
Ain’t that frantic that even after being the smartest being and having the most evolved brains we fall for lie!

And I am not gonna say that you’ll find something better,
and this end will help you look at other things,
this too shall pass,
etc
etc
let us leave the pep talk for later
For now, let us enjoy the feeling of Longing
Longing for all that you will miss after today because its the end and it ain’t coming back
and try to replay all the memories as many times as possible in your head and keep discussing it with yourself
because we are not only mortals but also forgetful and soon as time will pass
this feeling, this freshness it will all pass and you never have the feeling of missing something, loving something,  longing for something again
Remember end comes only once
So enjoy this longing
cry, sob, laugh, replay, reminisce the memories
write, sketch, talk or do anything that you wish, to store it all
Because this feeling will go as soon as life pushes you on the treadmill of time and you forget it all and the only time you’ll talk about it again is on empty nights and even that nostalgia will not be equivalent to this feeling
Because like end this feeling of longing something you have just witnessed comes only once
This feeling where you are in a moment which is so beautiful that you want it to last forever comes only once

Embrace it

It is not a bad thing at all
It is a beautiful thing

-Maybe Ends are new beginning just Ends
and they are beautiful that way!

 

 

 

Boats

 

IMG-20190505-WA0028.jpgA boat is meant to sail
anchors don’t keep her happy,
they do keep her safe, but then
there is always a time when they need to let go of her
it hurts, but you know what it is like watching someone you love happy?
That right there is happiness
and you know what happens if the anchors are never let gone
and she never sails?
she will rust in a corner and that my friend is not the meaning of keeping her safe!
Maybe you think she is not ready but is it really her not ready for a sail
or is it you not ready to let her go?
She has sailed this far and found her way to you, she will find her way again
You just need to let go of her
Because the truth is she must sail (with or without your consent!)

Life gives us the chances,
you will find new boats ,
and when they come to you, embrace them
but don’t compare them to her
because they are not her,
they don’t need to be her

She can always be your favourite
but accept other boats as well
because you never know what time has for you
and you never know, if she might come to you again
and this extra moment which you might get without any expectations of having it,
will be special, you will want it!
But you see you will not need it!

So let the boat sail
and find its way through the waves
It will make its destiny like every other boat out there
and that journey what she makes in the waves of freedom
will always remind her of your love and care

-Only know you love her when you let her go!

Camera, Filters, Upload!

Welcome to the theatre of social media


Where we play the roles of a director, writer, protagonist……
of the movies we call stories 

Where we have learnt to fool people
by showing them the evens
like the odds don’t exist
the good
like the bad does not exist

Where you have gotten them to believe that
quintessential life is one that is lived large and extra ordinarily

Where you have used the filters to hide you insecurities
while spreading them to your audience

Haven’t these stories made it easier for the world to know
Who is your partner (BAE as they call it!)
Because as a director of the movie you get the right to choose
“Who will I declare as my love, friend, enemy and acquaintances”
Also giving you the opportunity to decide for how many episodes
will they last

Because like the attendance sheet of college
you need to be present and active here
Or else they might forget
YOU EXIST (And Yes, they will judge you!)

Also the rule is to give more importance to  the publicity of love and affection,
fear and hesitation,
Because how will anyone ever know what you feel
Until you publicly acclaim it

Where these theatres have also performed the work of courts
Not as the court of justice but of incomplete and meddled knowledge
But this hasn’t stoped them from passing strict judgements 
over serious issues and disasters while sitting at home and sipping some cola

And don’t you think they do not have the pressure of how will this movie perform
Because they swell their fingers by tapping on insights to check the no. of views,
no. of likes, etc

Thus, today there is no need to go to a theatre for a movie
There are just too many playing around you
With no show time restriction, no torrents required

Like every other movie how smartly have we edited
the behind the scenes and
only shown the parts that were necessary
For people to see how good is your life
and moral of the movie;

making them feel insecure and comparing to others

Now since we have all that is required for a movie
Lets us also have an honest disclaimer.

 

-Isn’t it tiring playing all the roles alone?

It’s Just a phase, isn’t it?

There will always be a time when things aren’t right
People don’t count on you
They think your time is over
or Maybe it’s not your thing

Amidst all this,
People stop expecting from you
People also call it the doom

But It should rather be called the NO BURDEN PHASE
Because people have no expectations from you
there’s no performance pressure
You can silently work and be the underdog
while others try to get rid of the burden of expectations (that’s on them now).

It’s your time to work harder and laze around
Think more, brainstorm and prepare yourself
to give your best shot at your opportunity, conquer it
and come again under people’s expectations
yet again to become a part of their scrutiny list
to step in the burden phase again
So somebody else could get a chance to be in the NO BURDEN PHASE.

The expectations seem very attractive at the start when it gets you all the attention
But with time it gets heavier, so
Do not let people’s expectations stop you
They are like fake friends, they come and go with good times
Don’t let them bother you

-It’s just a phase cycle